A letter to my 16 year old self!

Hello Friends! Happy Hump Day! We are starting to see the weekend light! This week has been crazy busy. D is back at work and on 12-hour shifts. Mason is a little wild man like always. Work is well…work. Grad school is tough and I am hitting burn out. My heart is torn on if I should take a break from school. I know I will go back so that is not the problem. I just want a one class breather. Then again I really want to push through and get it done. This class has felt like I am just treading along is a clueless way.

One thing I do feel like I am rocking this week is meal planning. Our morning and evenings have been so much easier when meals are done and set. Plus it is so much cheaper and more cost effective to eat at home. I personally do not love eating out all the time.

Today I wanted to share some thoughts I have on my teenage self. I think we all look-back and cringe at our mindset (and clothing choices) at certain times in life. While I really believe I had a good head on my shoulders per say, I do wish I could go back and save myself some heartache.

A letter to my 16 year old self!

You are a freshman in high school. You have no idea what you want to be when you grow up. Your dream is to be a wife and mother. You want a career but the type and monetary aspect of it are not all that important to you. You know what….this will not change! Even in ten or fifteen years down the road. Your heart’s desire will stay the same and that is okay. It is okay if you do not want to be superwomen but want a simple life. Do not put pressure on yourself to think it is not enough because it is so much more than you think right now!

This brings me to my second point stop worrying about so much! Your peers that also have you on a scale to see if you are good enough. The girls that are checking you out. They look at your weight, your clothes, the brands you are wearing, what you are saying. Stop being so overly careful about everything I said because you fear someone will misunderstand a word and statement, then twist it into drama. Your reputation is what they think you are but it is NOT who you are!

Enjoy not having responsibilities! You might think you have the weight of the world on you but one day you will find yourself in a faraway land all alone and understand much more what the weight of the world feels like. I wish you could fully understand how nice it is to only be responsible for yourself right now. Enjoy it….relax!

Take care of your health! It is never too early to take care of yourself. Not eating a whole bag of crazy bread and eat a salad. Stop skipping meals to lose weight. Read the ingredients labels or better yet not eating so many things with ingredient labels. Use sunscreen and stop buying diet pills. Learn about your body and listen to it, it is the only one you will have.

Let them go! You know that boy that you want their approval? Let him go! The right guy will come along and you will quickly forget all about him! Let that friend go! You know that friend that is drama? That friend you have to aim to please allll the freaken time? Let her go! That is not friendship. The family member that you want their approval so much….just let them go! Simply love them and move on. Also, hold on to your true friends! They will be with you years down the road.

Know that you are so loved! You might not always feel like it but you are. This age brings on so much rejection and distrust. There is One you can always trust though. He loves you more than you can fathom. He has a plan for you just want and see. Turn to Him for love and peace! Dig deep in His Word and look no other way!

Lastly, you are doing great! You are not perfect but you are strong and you love hard. Stronger than you realize! You will look back and realize what you have been through, even the things hardly anyone knows and will be so grateful those things did not destroy you.


Your 20-something year old self

Question: What would you tell your 16 year old self?

  1. Patricia @Sweet and Strong

    May 10, 2017 at 1:29 pm

    I would share so many of the same things with a letter to my 16 year old self. Especially to enjoy not having responsibilities and to take care of my health. I always used to skip meals and pay zero attention to ingredients. Now I’m much healthier and happier than ever!

    1. Bethany

      May 10, 2017 at 10:13 pm

      Totally agree! That is one reason I have a passion to educate and empower our younger generation so much today.

  2. Kelli @ Hungry Hobby

    May 10, 2017 at 2:52 pm

    Awww so cute! This is great I wish I could say similar things to my 16 year old self!

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