Should you be using social media?
Hey Friends! Thanks for stopping by today! I seriously love hearing from you! If you follow me on Instagram you will see we are having a rainy day here. So all the coffee is happening!
Today we all LOVE our social media! I mean it is a great thing! I myself really enjoy sharing our lives far away from family and friends all over the world. I love that our family can easily see videos of our son and I love seeing my family and friends as well. Social media is also a great way to connect with people is a different way and offer more flexibility in the time we connect. Social media has its pitfalls though and I think these are different for each one of us. Here are a few pitfalls that I have been through myself or seen in relationships.
It causes feelings of being not good enough
You know that feeling when you see the amazing meal that person has cooked and you are digging through the freeze while everyone is complaining because they are hungry? Or that person that just rocked that CrossFit workout and you are still in your pajamas. <—this is me right now!
It is great for social media to be an encouragement tool but it is NOT real life! It is not the pictures of the mom crying because her kids are driving her crazy! It is NOT the picture of the person trying to reframe from the chocolate and ice cream in the refrigerator or the couple fighting once again on the financial budget.
When these feelings start to really sneak up and compile something it is best to just step away from social media or unfollow people. Your anxiety will be glad you did!
It makes you feel justified
This is a huge one as well! Aside from people acting perfect on social media, they also really act stupid! They use it to rant or share way too much information. They post pictures doing or acting in an inappropriate manner. It is easy to look at these sentences or pictures then think ‘hey they did …….. so I can or I am not so bad’. This really lowers the bar for ourselves. If you find that justification in poor actions, dress, appearance, choices, then you might want to delete the app for a while. We should set our own standards based on our values and beliefs not someone else’s.
You simply spend too much time there
Do you find yourself hanging out on Facebook instead of doing things that need to be done? We all need a little break here and there but if your break is turning into an hour plus on social media a day then it might be time to put up some limits. It is easy to get sucked into a long time of strolling through endless news feed or turn a quick look into a long stalking session. If you find yourself struggling with to do list or time management it might be a good idea to take a day and log your social media time.
It is stressful
Does anyone else find the conflict or social media stressful? If it is not politics then it is friends or family battling it out on social media. If neither of those stress you out I need to understand your life better ;). Or is the stress of comparision getting to you? Do you find yourself stressed over having to work out like that mom that has a 2-month-old or the women working full-time that somehow seems to have it all together? Is it stressing you out seeing all the pregnancy and baby pictures while you’ve been trying to have a baby for a year (been there)? If so step away! Why put yourself through it?
Sometimes there is just too much of a good thing!
Question: Do you think social media is a good thing? Do you takes social media breaks? What are your social media thoughts?