What The Guilt?!

Hey friends! Happy Wednesday to ya! I will be posting some pictures of our trip soon (or you can catch it on Instagram), but today I wanted to go a bit deep with ya on something I struggle with. I talked about something similar in this post a few months ago.

Everyone talks about the ‘mom guilt’ on blogs but what about the just plain ole guilt? Maybe it is the cousin of anxiety but I just feel like it is so heavy at times. Now, with the excitement and expectation of us going back home for a few weeks soon I feel the weight on me once more. Don’t get me wrong, we love going in to see our families! It is a blessing to have many friends and family members that love us. The struggle is not wanting to hurt anyone’s feelings. Balancing our time, commitments, families, and then just our wants it hard! Hurting others’ feelings is the worst, but if I am honest I feel like all by decisions and time is spent our others want it to be (or how I think they want it to be).

As I have been struggling with this I’ve also been trying to remember a few things to help me with this guilt. Here are a few that work for me.

Did I do the best I could?

This honestly can be tough for me. I am a person pleaser my nature, so I feel like ‘my best’ is not always realistic. I hold myself to standards I would never think of holding others to. I also fear of being any type of selfish so much I believe I go too far with my inability to say no. So this is something I am honestly still trying my best to find balance on in my life.

I cannot save the world!

Okay, I know this sounds a bit much or harsh. As much as I want to solve all the problems and make everyone’s hurt go away, I just can’t. I am not God but only human. I truly have to remind myself that I cannot ‘fix’ everything. When someone is hurting I want to be the one that says those magic words that open their eyes to all the happiness in the world. I want to be that person to take their mind off of the hurt or pain. I have to remind myself that I cannot and should not always be ‘that’ person. Additionally, ‘those’ problem solvers like myself can really be annoying. So much of the time people just want someone to listen and that is enough.

Watch my diet

Now when I say ‘diet’ I mean the true sense of the word (food and drink regularly provided or consumed). I can tell a big difference in my guilt and anxiety around it when I am consuming too much sugar and caffeine (give me all the coffee).

coffee

Mediate

I love this one! Mediation is so important and so counterintuitive in our society today. We are told to go go go and get all things done because we have to be all the things all the time. This is not how we were created to be. This seriously provides a constant state of stress on our bodies. I have found that getting up early in the morning to just meditate and spend time in the Word has a huge impact on not only my day but my mental health.

Question: What do you do when you feel the guilt coming? Are you one to struggle with guilt? 

XOXO

Bethany

  1. Emily @ Pizza & Pull-Ups

    August 16, 2017 at 1:38 am

    I totally feel you girl! I am definitely am a people pleaser and I will play events over and feel super guilty if I think I said the wrong thing or didn’t do enough. I have never been one to meditate consistently, but I have really been meaning to try to more. Enjoy your time at home, hope the guilt
    monster stays at bay.

    1. Bethany

      August 16, 2017 at 12:32 pm

      I love you said ‘guilt monster’! So stinkin’ true! Have a great day!

  2. Kelli @ Hungry Hobby

    August 16, 2017 at 2:54 pm

    As someone who works from home, I struggle with the guilt of working at the same time when everyone else is working. It’s hard for me to stop and go to the bank or do errands when it would be less busy because I feel guilty like I should be working during those times. It’s a hard balance!

    1. Bethany

      August 17, 2017 at 2:02 am

      I can totally see that! No doubt you are doing the best you can to balance though. Why are we so much harder on ourselves than we would be others? Thank you for sharing.

  3. Erinn

    August 17, 2017 at 9:18 pm

    This post seriously speaks to me! I feel guilty all the time…and most of the time it’s about things I have no control over! And I agree with you 100% that guilt and anxiety go hand in hand. Thanks for being so open and honest about such a difficult topic!

    1. Bethany

      August 18, 2017 at 1:56 am

      Thank you for sharing with me. The struggle is real!

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